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Anal sex isn't (necessarily!) a “bend over and take it” kind of thing, but can contain encompass a whole array of butt-centric activities, including oral stuff like rimming, pre-anal exploratory ventures with fingers or toys, all the way to full-on penetration. And even that's part is adjustable— if you (or your partner for that matter) don't happen to possess a penis, strap-on a dildo and go all-n with a pegging session.

Here are your anal caveats. Some people, for whatever reason, are super resistant to anything back there. Definitely talk before touching someone's ass—no one likes surprise anal. If it's a poop = gross issue, going to the bathroom first and scrubbing the living hell after can help with that. If one of you is sketchy about butt stuff, but still open to the idea, just start with some beginner moves like rubbing a well-lubricated finger around the outside of the anus and assess. (See also: our beginner's guide to all things anal).

Pain (or the potential for it) can also be an issue. “My best advice is to take it slow. Anal sex isn't something you can rush,”says Ashley Cobb, Sex Blogger and Lovehoney Expert. “When it's done correctly, it doesn't hurt and feels amazing.” The more aroused the receiver is, the more relaxed, they'll be. The other thing is to use a literal butt-load of lube. Asses don't naturally lubricate so even though WAP is a thing, WAButt is not. You will probably need to re-lube during as well.

People with prostates often super love anal because it stimulates their prostates in an amazing way, but any ass is rich in nerve endings and the right touch can feel amazing. “Anal orgasms are just as euphoric as vaginal ones,” says Cobb.

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1 Cheeky Monkey

If you love watching your partner's reactions, lie back while they straddle you. They can masturbate while you slide a finger or toy in their bum and behold your asstastic sexual powers. Try a wearable vibrator for you too and... holy hell.

Lucie: One person lying back on a stack of pillows with their fingers or a toy up partner's butt. Partner is straddling our girl so their genitals are close to her head and masturbating.

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2 Hot Seat

Super deep penetration plus convenient place to hang on? Yes, please. Kneel in front of a chair, beanbag, side of the bed, and hold the hell on, as needed. Your partner enters from behind and you get a cushion for the pushin'.

3 Your Ass is Grass

A CBD-based lube can make anal feel more intense and pleasurable. Apply some in and around your bumhole a few minutes beforehand for maximum magic, then sit back slowly onto your partner's biological or store-bought D and take as much as you want at your own CBD-assed pace.

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4 All Hands on Pecs

Anal sex often leaves you staring off into the distance, so this position is great for people who want a sexy view. From missionary position, have your partner enter you slowly. Hold onto their chest to help guide their thrusts.

5 The Plug and Play

If you're not a billion percent sure you want your partner to go all in, start with a test run. Try some clit love via toy or hand, while your partner attempts an exploratory excursion with a well-lubed butt plug. If you want more, it's easy to move onto trial entry by penis or strap-on. Your butt, your rules.

6 The Posterior Plank

This position has the lowest incidence of suffering a sex-induced butt cramp, if that's something you're worried about. Perfect for when you're feeling lazy but also want to have anal sex, AKA Thursday.

7 Anal Will Always Love You

A more intimate take on doggy-style, stand in front of your partner and have them enter you from behind, keeping your bodies close like they're your "Bodyguard." Then, for the grand crescendo, throw your arms out to the sides like the diva you truly are.

8 Back Me Up

A kinky take on doggy-style, and who doesn't love doggy-style? Always communicate what speed and depth you're comfortable with in this position, but they can help you relax and stay horny by reaching around and fingering your clit.

9 The Kinky Cowgirl

Straddle your partner, cowgirl-style, and slowly ease onto their, er, saddle. Then ride them and enjoy holding the reins.

10 The Low Rider

Get more control over what's going on back there by with a doggy-spoon hybrid. You can use your foot to go deeper or slow it down if it gets too intense.

11 T&Anal

Just because your rear is the center of attention doesn't mean your front should be ignored. Have them enter you in a spooning position, then use their top hand to give your nipples or clit some love.

12 The Inversion Booty

An advanced move for yogis and experienced anal sexperts. Swing your legs over their shoulders and have them enter you at an upward angle. The pay-off to your impending leg cramp: They can rub against the sensitive interior parts of your clit from here.

13 The Doppelbanger

Get the physical benefits of double penetration without the possible accompanying emotional weirdness of having a threesome by just using a dildo instead. Hug a pillow between your legs to keep the dildo or a rabbit-style vibe in place while your partner goes in from behind. So. Much. D.

14 Lean on Me

It seems basic, but this position is not actually for beginners. You have little control over the speed and depth, and they'll have a hard time reaching your clit to keep you aroused. Do this one with a trusted partner with whom you communicate well to make sure everyone feels supported.

15 Netflix Anal Chill

It's like Netflix and chill, but, you know, around back. Straddle them on the couch so you have total control over how fast and deep they go, and put on some episodes of Outlander so you can sneakily get off to Jamie Fraser.

16 Yab Bum

No reason you should be getting all the ass-tastic love. Try the intimate Tantric Yab Yum position, but with anal for you and a vibrating prostate toy up the bum for your partner. Press a bullet vibe against your clitoris and, honestly, y'all will barely have to move to have insane, toy-fueled orgasms.

17 The Triple D

If you and your girl have double penetration fantasies, but also happen to be monogamous lesbians, fill up with hers n' hers double-headed dildos. Suction 'em to the ground, lube up, and gently slide on. (FYI: CBD-based lube can help relax both front and back entries.) Once situated, slowly bob up and down while rubbing your own or a nearby clit.

18 The Fork Lift

For a sitting version of doggie that gives you waaaay more control of how much you're gonna take, sit down on your partner's lap. Slide down as slowly as you please, bracing your hands on your partner's thighs so you're in full control. (Ahem, making the backing up "beep-beep" noise here is totally optional... as in, not really recommended at all.)

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